Star Wars, Ex-wives and Goodbye Jack

Brilliant plan .. get boys out Star Wars from video shop and have two hours peace and quiet on Sunday evening! Excellent. I am so not a Star Wars fan .. ok maybe if they had Johnny Depp or Matt Damon in it I could be tempted but it doesn't so would rather watch paint dry! Gives me a great chance to catch up on the goss in blogland and update mine!

Friday evening cleared up amazingly so ended up taking the boys to the fire works display. Lovely warm evening and great fireworks. C1 went there for ATC (Air Training Corps) and helped out directing traffic and being runners for the stalls. C2 brought himself a blow up hammer so was went off with a friend to bang everyone they knew over the head with their hammers. BF and I were essentially child free so walked around and chatted to people and enjoyed some time out which was great.

BF had to go to work for an hour on Saturday morning. No problem! Not. His youngest daughter comes to our place for access every Saturday so BF planned to be back before she turned up. His ex wife rung early, barked down the phone that she wanted to speak to BF. Told her he was at work. She got snitchy and asked where she was supposed to drop daughter off. I told her that BF would be home soon so here would be fine .. reply 'Well Nancy you know I couldn't possibly do that'. Ex-wife came out here with daughter and sat in her car - daughter was all ready to get out of car but ex-wife decided she would park out on my drive way and wait for BF. She tried to have a go at me and I told her that I didn't expect to be spoken to like that at my own house and told her that I would be fine with daughter. She refused so I suggested she just go. Ex-wife sat in drive way for a few minutes and then left with daughter! She then tried ringing BF 16 times (I kid you not) and then drove to his work and sat waiting for him. BF was already home at that stage anyway!
BF rung her later and reminded her that her partner is allowed to have daughter by himself so he couldn't see a problem with me having her for 10 minutes. Ex-wife tried to tell BF that daughter was crying in car and wouldn't get out. BF told her she was full of shit and that she shouldn't make daughter suffer because ex wife doesn't like me.
It was so frustrating. Time and time again his exs (two of them) make the children suffer to get back at us. While it upsets us the children get hurt more. Both the exs should grow up and encourage the children to have a healthy relationship with both BF and myself. As much as it pisses them off BF and I are planning on being together for the rest of our lives so they are just going to have to get used to it. The thing I do find funny is that they both think that BF is stupid and that they can pull the wool over his eyes. He is wising up to them and gaining so much more confidence so he is no longer sitting back and apologising to them. Ex-wife for example thinks she knows how to wind him up (so he loses his temper and looks like an asshole) .. he now either ignores the comments or tells her they have nothing to do with the current problem. It is so nice to listen to and I am very proud of him for that.

I have been overeating to day. Emotional eating. You may have guessed the BF and I are huge cow fans and adore our wee cow family. We have had Jack for three years now and bottle fed him when he was a calf. He may have wonky horns (and usually grass hanging off at least one of them), and he may always have dirty knees. He may not be the sharpest knife in the drawer and he didn't impress us went he went through he fence jumping stage. But he is our Jack and we love him. We both feel terrible that tomorrow we are sending him to the sale yards. It was our decision to send him now and it was a hard one to make but for many reasons it is his time to go. So today we had to go to my parents house and say goodbye to him. He sat in the grass eating and I cried. He walked down the paddock to see the other cattle and I called his name out. He turned around to look at me and I waved goodbye. I feel like a complete asshole!

Love you Jack. RIP.





PS I told BF that I am going to buy a tree and plant it in the garden (at my parents house as we will be moving there next year) as a memorial to Jack. Some place that I can go talk to him and tell him how sorry I am.